One Flesh
Chapter Six
The Rationale for the Ideal Couple
In chapter five we dogmatically laid down the protocol for the Ideal Couple. In this chapter we will consider in detail the reasons for each of these recommendations.
There is no great mystery as to the why and wherefore of the ideal couple. They simply follow the Laws of their physiological and psychological nature. If they were a machine with a set of instructions, I believe this set of instructions would admonish them to follow the path outlined in Chapter Five for the best possible results (both short-term and long-term) for the use of this mechanism. If we examine the nature of men and women it is not difficult to discern how their Sexual Creative Center works best and how to use it to the best advantage of all concerned.
The Youthful Marriage
When we examine the physiology of men and women, it is easy to see some of the advantages of early marriage. Both young men and young women reach their peak of reproductive ability and competence at a fairly early age. Most certainly the fact that the male hormones reach their apogee in the late teens gives us some idea of the plan of God and Nature for the activity of the young male. Likewise, as a practicing physician of over forty years, I know that the best and easiest time for a young girl to start her family is in her late teens and early twenties.
Unfortunately, our present culture and social environment does not coincide with the physiological nature of our young people. Today we expect a man to be well established before he thinks of marriage and we tend to pressure young women to prepare for and work at a job or profession before they too think about becoming joined to another. As a result of these expectations, we find more and more couples deciding to marry and have children at an ever increasing age. There are several results of this trend that may not be to the best interests of the One Flesh marriage or humanity.
Children born later in life may present more complications than those born in a woman's late teens or twenties. Birth defects are more common in the older group. Older parents often have a harder time adjusting to children than those of a younger age. The children of older parents may not have as much rapport as those with parents who are closer to their age.
Those who do not marry young frequently have many sexual "adventures" that are detrimental to the best interests of their Sexual Creative Center. Both men and women today, being human and uninformed about the holy nature of the Sexual Creative Center, are likely to have had sex with various partners before marriage. Such activities may produce a variety of adverse effects, some described above and others to be considered in later chapters. This is particularly true with today's young promiscuous persons who seem to be "between a rock and the hard place." If they practice "safe sex," they are literally and figuratively "casting the seed upon the ground" with the attendant destructive nature of this act on their Sexual Creative Center, and, if they have relations without such mechanical impediments, they open themselves to various sexually transmitted diseases, gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia, herpes and, of course, AIDS. In my medical office,
I have seen literally thousands of young girls who would have made excellent wives and mothers but who are now doomed to a life of pelvic pain and infertility due to one of the above conditions contracted by an earlier promiscuous lifestyle.
You may ask why we don't tell these young people to "just say no." Many try this, but as Saint Paul said, "It is better to marry than to burn." Nature has so designed the sexual drives in young men and women to force them to come together and "replenish the earth." She leaves nothing to chance and so made the sexual drives in the young strong enough that they could not easily "just say no."
All too often, young people who do not marry early, but who are not promiscuous, either out of respect or out of fear, become victims of "solitary vice" (masturbation). Here, as with the use of the "safe sex" condom, the "seed" is cast upon the ground, literally in the case of the young man and figuratively with the young girl. It used to be that the average young girl did not have the same early sexual desires as the young man (for rather obvious natural reasons-see Chapter Eight) but this is now changing with the freely available and "in your face" explicit sexuality portrayed by nearly all our popular media.
One other difficulty that can develop in a later marriage is the ability of both, assuming both were "experienced," to compare the love-making ability, and general personality, of their spouse with others they have "known." This can be a never-ending cause of disharmony in some households and it takes a very strong will and understanding nature not to play this trump card in time of dispute if the couple has had other sexual partners.
Should a late marriage be expedited by an unexpected pregnancy, the same doubts that were mentioned before, with the younger couple, may come into play here as well. That is, doubts on her part of, "Did he marry me only because he had to," and on his part of, "Did she get pregnant so she could force me to marry her?" While such problems can also develop in an early marriage, they are more common in the later marriage and it seems that younger individuals are not as sensitive to the situation as older.
In summary, there is much to recommend the young marriage. On the psychological side it is usually much easier for a couple to blend into the desired One Flesh
marriage if they begin their life together before either of them is overly set in their ways, as can happen when the marriage state is entered later in life.
It may be that such a youthful marriage will entail sacrifices on both partners but these are the sort of challenges that make a stronger One Flesh union. By meeting and overcoming a variety of difficulties together, the One Flesh battery is created and strengthened. As the physical fluids of the Sexual Creative Center and the Ætherial fluids of love continue to be exchanged by our young couple, they grow in every direction and will astound those who thought them foolish to desire to marry before they had made their way in the world.
There are, of course, financial considerations to be met in such young marriages, but these have been met in years past in a variety of cultures by the families and, sometimes, the community helping the couple to establish a toehold in society. There is no reason that this cannot be done today. In the long run it is to everyone's advantage to have the young couple succeed and become a useful and constructive part of the community.
Admittedly, the act of marrying young is not a panacea to a good and happy life. The couple must understand the One Flesh concept and be willing to follow its directives. Some who marry young are not prepared for the state of matrimony; these usually end the marriage before too long. We are not referring to these as our ideal couple. Those who marry young, even if they are not familiar with the One Flesh concept, may avoid some of the physical problems that are common in the unmarried, but they may fall into other traps if they are not aware of the various principles described in this work. Therefore, early marriage does not provide an assurance of the constructive use of the Sexual Creative Center. But it can be one of the easiest paths to it.
The Dual Virgin Marriage
The advantages of the dual virgin marriage have been explored in the previous chapter, so I will add only a few comments here. There are those who suggest, and I am among them, that if we can eliminate the sexually transmitted diseases we will have gone a long way eliminating all infectious disease and perhaps many other noninfectious diseases as well. These sexual diseases have plagued mankind since its earliest days and for one reason only-its sexual perversions and promiscuity. No sexual disease was ever created by a "clean" couple having sexual relations according to the One Flesh principles.
But, as a whole, mankind has ignored the cause of these soul-sapping diseases and has concentrated its efforts on finding a way of killing the biological agent that is the vehicle for bringing about the reaction of the perverse action created by men and women. This is the old story of killing the messenger and ignoring the message. As a whole, mankind refuses to stop those activities that create the need for the disease process. What men sometimes fail to see and acknowledge is that as soon as they are able to destroy or control one messenger, a new and more powerful one is created by the inherent nature of their perverted acts. Each of these new agents is usually more insidious and more destructive than the one before. This process is likely to continue until all mankind either learns the lesson of sexual purity (One Flesh principles) or becomes a mortal victim to its own perversity.
When civilization (if we can really consider individuals civilized who are not willing to practice the One Flesh principles) first encountered the consequences of man's perversions and promiscuity, the biological agents were bacterial. As man developed methods of controlling these agents, the agents began to change to those of a viral form which are much more difficult to manage. Have no allusions that mankind will ever be able to completely thwart the agents created by sexual perversions and promiscuity. They exist to show him the error of his ways and only when he gives up his practices of perversion and promiscuity and embraces the One Flesh concept to sexual purity will he be free of them.
The truth of the preceding statements should be obvious to anyone who examines the history of mankind objectively. The trail of biological reaction leads from gonorrhea to syphilis to Chlamydia to herpes to AIDS and to a vast number of such agents that prey upon and gradually erode the Sexual Creative Center. This has been going on for thousands of years and still mankind is as adamant in its refusal to see and accept the truth as it was in the beginning. As Scripture implies, man's last days may well be worse than his first. The ultimate and complete cure for AIDS is the same as that for herpes and Chlamydia and syphilis and gonorrhea and every other form of sexually transmitted disease-the monogamous marriage of two clean virgins. This is God's plan for mankind and we will continue to suffer until we get this simple fact though our rather thick noggins.
Why has mankind not learned this simple lesson? Man wants the forbidden fruit. What is the forbidden fruit? Nothing more or less than sexual perversions and promiscuity. Thus it was in the beginning with Adam and Eve, and thus it will be at the end of time, unless mankind changes its ways.
All societies, from the earliest days of human existence, have always attempted to place the blame elsewhere because these adverse sexual activities have been the true "sacred cows" of all civilizations. From the most influential potentate to the meanest beggar on the street, none has been willing to acknowledge the reality of their addiction to these sexual perversions. It is no different today. As we look around us, we see the same arrogance regarding the desecration of the human Sexual Creative Center from the highest office in our land to the lowliest "homeless" individual. The official word on this subject, from those who are charged with protecting the health and welfare of our people, is to use a condom every time one has sexual intercourse. The mere fact that such a practice is destructive to all that human sexuality stands for, seems to concern them not. The little accepted fact, but nevertheless true, that such a practice will eventually lead to a destruction of the Sexual Creative Center and, with it, the possibility of human Immortalization seems to concern them not. In the old days everyone knew what was right and good and governments at least gave lip service to the right; they usually did not have the will power to live that right, however. Nowadays, this has changed; it seems our modern leaders not only embrace every form of sexual perversion, but attempt to make them not only acceptable, but desirable.
Obviously, our leaders have forgotten the lessons of Sodom, Gomorrah, Greece, Rome and all the other civilizations that vanished from the face of the earth due to the reactions created by their official sponsorship of sexual perversity.
The Young Family
Mating to create a family is the natural result of the One Flesh marriage. I realize the tendency of young couples today to want to "get acquainted" with one another before a family is begun but, in the long run, my experience is that it is usually best not to attempt to wait too long to begin a family. As mentioned earlier, the ability to create superior bodies for the new souls is inherent in the young. Once a couple decides to put off the family until they are better prepared, it seems that time almost never comes. What does frequently happen is that the family is put off until the wife finally realizes that biological clock is running out and she had better begin a family if they are to have one. By this time, she will often find that pregnancy is not easy, especially if she has used a hormonal type of contraceptive (the pill).
My experience as a clinician has demonstrated that couples who conceive children shortly after marriage usually find their life is blessed in many ways they did not, or could not, understand prior to becoming a true family. Many blessings are generated by following the natural order of things that cannot easily be put down in an argument but which are abundantly clear to those who live and experience them.
Contraception
It is very easy for a reader to gather from the One Flesh concept that it does not espouse contraception. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Contraception is an important part of any modern One Flesh marriage since the proper spacing of children, to allow for good family finances and the health of the mother and new fetus, is of great importance. We only suggest that the method of contraception used not interfere with the vital exchange of sexual fluids.
At the present time, in the development of the art of contraception, our first recommendation is for the latex diaphragm used with only a nonspermicidal jelly (K-Y) on the rim when it is inserted. The usual spermicidal jelly or cream suggested by the manufacturers will adversely interact with the seminal and vaginal fluids and thereby tend to neutralize their otherwise beneficial effects. If, for an added measure of protection, the wife would like to place a dollop of spermicide in the center of the diaphragm (the part that goes against the mouth of the womb [cervix]) this is allowed since the spermicide here will not come into contact and, therefore, be able to interact with the sexual fluids. If the spermicide is used, it is important that the wife douche with a solution of Lactic Acid Douche* as soon as the diaphragm is removed. This will keep the spermicide from causing problems later on and also assures that the pH of her vagina is returned to normal as soon as possible.
*Lactic Acid Douche is a special dilution of the natural acid present in the vagina. This can be obtained from the Healing Research Center, 5916 Clymer Road, Quakertown, PA 1895.
Some purists may complain that the diaphragm covers a portion of the vaginal wall and therefore the absorption of the sexual fluids is reduced when using this form of contraception. Theoretically this is true, but long experience has shown that the difference in the absorption of the life-giving fluids with the use of the diaphragm, and without the use of this method of contraception, is so slight as to be negligible in all known instances.
Other Methods of Contraception that Lend Themselves to the One Flesh Principles: The Rhythm Method, the Contraceptive Pill and the Cervical Cap
The Rhythm Method certainly falls within the One Flesh concept and, except for two important drawbacks, has much to recommend it. It greatest weakness is that it is not particularly effective for many couples, although for those couples who are able to use it effectively, it is the purest of the One Flesh methods of contraception.
Its second weakness is the fact that, for most young couples, it restricts the times available for the marriage rite more than they desire and more than is best to the sexual creative processes of Regeneration and Spiritualization. Many couples solve the problem by using the Rhythm Method during the "safe" period and the diaphragm during the fertile time.
The Contraceptive Pill most certainly allows for the full exchange required for the One Flesh concept. Our reservation for this method lies in its safety for the wife and its possible long-term adverse effects. I must admit, that as a naturalist in the healing fields, I look with concern and skepticism toward any method that attempts to alter the normal ebb and flow of a woman's hormones. It is my experience that when we, as physicians, attempt to do things like this, we often get reactions that we did not anticipate and do not like.
We already know that the pill can cause-has caused- serious vascular problems in some women, although this is now said to be less with the reduced hormones in the current product. Also many women have considerable trouble in returning to a normal menstrual cycle once they stop the pill. This can make it difficult for them to bear a child when and as they desire. Some never seem to return to a normal menstrual pattern after the use of the pill. Recent findings also link the use of the contraceptive pill to cervical cancer.
The Cervical Cap is not as well known as those methods already discussed, but in selected wives it may be the method of choice. Its most important use is for the wife who, for various reasons, is not able to retain the diaphragm and does not desire to take the risks of the rhythm or pill methods.
The cervical cap needs to be properly fitted by a knowledgeable physician and the wife needs to be carefully taught how to insert and remove it as required. The cervical cap has the advantage of being able to be left in place for three to four days without removal or the addition of more lubricating jelly.
Regeneration via the Sexual Creative Center in the One Flesh Ideal Couple
While this subject was discussed in Chapter Two and will be discussed again, in even greater depth, in Chapter Twelve, we felt that it was important to relate it, along with Spiritualization via the Sexual Creative Center, to our Ideal Couple.
The more intact the Sexual Creative Center, the more power it holds for those who desire to use it for the Regenerative process. For this maximum power, it is important that this process begin early in the life of a couple and that there be as few previous assaults on the Sexual Creative Center as possible. One of the reasons for our recommendation of early marriage by dual virgins becomes obvious when we consider these requirements for Regeneration via the Sexual
Creative Center. When Dr. Randolph spoke of purity being the price of power, Regeneration via the Sexual Creative Center was one of the main applications of his principle.
While most of the our medical and scientific communities considers the body from a chemical and mechanical point of view, more and more adventurous scientists are beginning to look upon it as a bio-electrical or even a bio-vibratory entity. We are in full harmony with their position. Mechanics and chemistry do not, and cannot, explain all that goes on in our bodies-much less in our minds, emotions or soul. To an extent rarely realized, and almost never appreciated, we are governed by centers in our body that send out bio-generated vibrations to produce the desired and needed effects. One of the most important of these centers is the Sexual Creative Center. It is the grand center of all creativity and vitality. By the use of mind, heart and Will during the marital embrace, the knowledgeable One Flesh couple can call upon the Sexual Creative Center to send out bio-vibrations to regenerate the bodies of both the husband and wife. This process is as simple as a deep-felt prayer and has the same potential for good. But, as mentioned, the closer the couple can come to meeting the criteria of the ideal couple the greater the regenerative power they are able to unleash.
Spiritualization via the Sexual Creative Center
Once our conscientious One Flesh couple is able to experience the salubrious results of their work of Regeneration, they may well desire to explore the Sexual Creative Center even deeper and so they will search for those who are able to instruct them in the path on how to use this center for personal Spiritualization. Having found this guidance, they put it to use and find that all the real secrets of the ages are hidden within their own nature and, with proper instruction, they are able to access them for their physical, mental and spiritual benefit.
Conclusion
The implementation of the One Flesh ideal couple is not easy but then, on the other hand, it is not all that difficult. For, as the Nazarene states in Matthew 11:29-30, "Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden light." The reason the yoke of Jesus was, and is, easy is that he taught only the truth. No matter how easy the path of nontruth may seem at first sight, it is always an unbearable burden in the long run because it leads to all that is negative and destructive in life. The path of the One Flesh couple is the path of truth and is, therefore, the easiest path known to mankind, since all others lead not to the desired goal but to unremitting suffering and sorrow.
The burden of this teaching may seem heavy from first observation, but this is only because we are used to accepting as fact that which is not true. Once we realize the truth of Saint Paul's admonition in Galatians, we will readily understand that the path of the One Flesh concept is the right, light and easy one. Paul said, "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." Those who would follow the path of perversion and promiscuity are sowing to the flesh; those who follow the One Flesh method are sowing to the Spirit and will surely reap the promise of Saint Paul if they are faithful in their efforts.*
*Marriage has meant many things to many societies down the ages. While we feel that our description of the ideal couple is in harmony with all that is good in this institution, others may have different views of marriage. At the present time the Gay Community is attempting to gain legalization of same-sex marriages. From the One Flesh point of view this is an oxymoron, since the entire concept of marriage is the coming together of two opposite forces, not the amalgamation of two like forces. In all fairness, but in no wise justifying homosexual practices, if two males or two females desire to gain the survivor benefits of marriage, they could do so by a normal civil contract. This could fulfill their expressed desires without making a mockery of the One Flesh marriage.
If we are accept marriage between two of the same sex, would we not be unjust if we did not then also accept marriage between man and beast. Surely, we cannot discriminate between one man's perversion and another's. By this token, should not those who practice bestiality have the same rights as those who practice homosexuality? Who among us is so pious and all wise that they have the right to assure us that their particular perversion is more "holy" and "sanctified" than that of their neighbor?