One Flesh
Chapter Seven
Prevailing Sexual Practices and Attitudes in Relationship to the One Flesh Concepts
Many readers were surprised that we went into such detail about aberrant sexual practices and perversions in our book Creative Sex. In considering this matter we were faced with the same conundrum that faced the minister in Michener's book, Hawaii. As the story goes, the minister desired to put up placards admonishing the natives not to commit adultery. His native helper did not think this was such a good idea and he stated his reasoning thusly: "In Hawaii, we have fourteen different types of adultery," he said. "If you put up a sign that just says, 'Do Not Commit Adultery,' everyone will be certain that you are talking about one of the other types of adultery and not the one that they enjoy and so nothing will change." He added, "On the other hand, if you name all the fourteen types of adultery, then our people will look at the sign and think, 'Well there's a form of adultery that I've never tried, I wonder what it would be like?' " The minister thought on his assistant's comments for a while and finally decided not to put up any signs at all.
I find myself in the same quandary. Do I just say that all perversions are destructive to the body, mind and soul and trust that my readers will not presume that I am speaking about every other form of perversion except that which they enjoy or do I list all "fourteen"? On the other hand, should I take the course of the minister in Michener's Hawaii and ignore the subject entirely?
After much soul searching, and with the advantage of the hindsight of realizing that, due to ignorance of the true nature of their Sexual Creative Centers, the natives of Hawaii almost became extinct, I decided that more good than evil would be achieved by listing the adverse sexual activities in this book.
However, I also felt it important to suggest this caveat: If you do not desire to read about the more sordid nature of sexuality, avoid this chapter. If you will follow the positive
instructions in the preceding chapters and in those that follow, you will have more than enough guidance to live the One Flesh life and make proper use of your Sexual Creative Center.
One of Benjamin Franklin's wisest sayings is, "A sin is not harmful because it is forbidden; it is forbidden because it is harmful." Nature and our Creator have built into our bodies a marvelous intricate creative sexual faculty. If we use this faculty to the best interests of ourselves, and others, no sin is created. Sin, that which is injurious or harmful, is only produced when this creative faculty is used in a wasteful, nonproductive or perverse manner.
True morality should be based on this premise alone. Only that which is injurious to man, or contrary to his best interests, is, or should be, denied him by Nature, law or God. Unfortunately, most of the scientific reasoning behind such a morality has been lost by almost all modern religions and philosophical movements, leaving them only with the letter of the Law-all those dogmatic "thou shalt nots." When this unyielding letter of the law is further couched in sanctimonious church language, it invariably grates against the sensibilities of all except the most easily led. The truth may be there, but without the Spirit, scientific evidence and an understanding of God's Divine Law, there are all too few today who feel compelled to obey the edicts of the Church.
Those, on the other hand, who preach sexual liberty and freedom of sensual expression teach their philosophy with seductive reason and apparent scientific justification. Their works are well written and popular among those of intellect and sensitivity who, if the proper instruction had only been given them, would stand to benefit most from realistic, practical and constructive sexual information.
In this chapter, I trust we will be able to provide the basis for a new morality. One based on truth, science, honesty and personal responsibility. This new morality will include all that is good and valuable in the old but will be devoid of its unscientific "thou shalt nots." Emphasis will be placed on the beneficial and productive effects that flow from a constructive use of the Sexual Creative Center.
In an effort to prevent confusion and possible misunderstandings, I will speak plainly and candidly about the various sexual activities and their place in the One Flesh sexual life. From long experience, I have found that unless a sexual procedure is discussed in clear, unambiguous language, many will misconstrue the real meaning. I apologize to the more sensitive of my readers for such plain language, but are we not extolled by the prophets to be as gentle as the dove, but as wise as the serpent, and if we fear wisdom, we fear that which is essential to our own best progress.
In this analysis and critique of sexual activities, I shall be guided in my evaluation by the several principles described in foregoing chapters of this work.
These principles are:
1. For the sex act to be constructive and legitimate, there must be a discharge of male semen into the female vagina in such a manner that its absorption and utilization by her system is unimpeded.
2. Harmonious vibrations of love must pass between the husband and wife during the sexual act and these vibrations must emanate from the heart and soul of both participants.
3. Both parties to the act must always be ready, willing and even eager to accept full responsibility of all possible consequences of their act of love.
It has been my experience, after forty years of counseling, that if the full requirements of the first two principles are met, but the responsibility for their ultimate consequences are not eagerly assumed by the loving pair, injury and unhappiness will result.
We shall first deal with those sexual abuses that apply directly to principle 1, and when these are exhausted, those affecting principles 2 and 3 will be considered. In many perverse sexual activities two or more abuses are present, but in each instance I shall discuss these practices under the lowest number in this order.
Those Practices that Violate
the First PrincipleMasturbation
In the male, and more and more in the female due to modern sexual teachings, masturbation is usually the first conscious sexual activity in which a human engages. In a boy, masturbation will, frequently, first occur almost unconsciously. As he begins to mature there will come a time when the close proximity of members of the opposite sex or even the friction of clothing will cause sufficient stimulation for an ejaculation to occur. The pleasure of this first ejaculation will often surprise, but please him. Unless he is fairly well grounded in the principles of the constructive use of the Sexual Creative Center he will have little idea of the consequences of continuing this activity. Many teenage boys find that during this rather trying period of their lives, masturbation is one of the few constant pleasures upon which they can depend. With raging hormones, they find it difficult to keep thoughts of sexuality out of their minds. This is one of the reasons that early marriage may be a useful solution in those who are, by nature or culture, sufficiently mature for this step.
As with sex itself, the general attitude toward masturbation, like the pendulum mentioned in the introduction to this work, has vacillated greatly over the centuries. At times, it was held to be as a major cause of insanity and moral degradation; more recently some authors teach that it is a valuable art and skill to be learned by both male and female. A recent prestigious book by a self-appointed sex guru states:
"While boys need only to be told to enjoy masturbation without guilt, adolescent girls should be actively encouraged to explore their own bodies. To the mother who finds her daughter masturbating and wants to know what to tell her, the answer is rejoice and be exceedingly glad that she is learning a skill and hope that if you were worried by old superstitions, you didn't show it and put her off. If your daughter doesn't masturbate, there would be a case for teaching her if parental teaching wasn't to be mistimed and intrusive. Books or instruction in a group as a part of normal sex education would be a better idea. Lovers should not only masturbate each other, but watch each other masturbate, both for excitement and instruction."
Oh, Sodom, Oh, Gomorrah, your influence lives on! One of our recent surgeon general was removed, after many complaints were lodged, for recommending that such teaching be a part of public school curriculums. That she felt free to advocate such a teaching in the first place shows something of the degenerate nature of our present national morality.
It is not my purpose to judge the writings or motives of other individuals. I only wish to state the unequivocal fact that during all forms of masturbation, the creative energy is lost from the body in its most simplistic form. In the male, the semen itself passes out of the body with no compensatory exchange of energy from any other source. If this act is continued long enough, all of the creative energy residing in the Sexual Creative Center will be lost and the masturbator will end up but a shell of a human being, devoid entirely of all humane or constructive creativity. The same situation occurs in the woman or girl who pursues this course, although the modus operandi is not quite as obvious as in the man. Whenever a woman is sexually aroused, either by herself or by a partner, and a hormonal exchange with a congenial seminal fluid and harmonious emotional vibrations are not present, her system is cheated and depleted. Her own creative energy is diminished and the stage is set for a variety of physical and emotional complaints. The orgasm caused by the titillation of her sexual organs creates but a short-term nervous release that is of little long-term help in compensating for the other injurious effects to her entire nervous and glandular system.
In recent years the vibrator has been added to the paraphernalia of the female masturbator. The glories of this device are extolled in many media presentations. The adverse effects, of course, are the same as any other form of masturbation.
Masturbation is one of the more wasteful and destructive of all sexual activities, for it partakes of none of the three essentials we prescribed for constructive use of the Sexual Creative Center. There is, in masturbation, no exchange of fluids between male and female. Second, masturbation as herein discussed is a solitary act (the various forms of mutual masturbation will be discussed later) and, as such, there is no way in which vibrations of love can be exchanged. Third, since Reproduction, Regeneration and Spiritualization are out of the question, the third essential cannot be fulfilled.
How injurious, you may ask, is masturbation? With each act of masturbation, either male or female, a certain percentage of creative energy in the Sexual Creative Center is lost forever since there is no possibility of an exchange. If masturbation is confined to an individual's youth, the loss is usually not sufficient to cause irreparable damage. That does not mean that youthful masturbation does not have adverse effects. It is harmful in the same manner as that of a man, who left a fortune in his youth, squandered a certain portion of it in riotous living. That which he squandered would not be available for his later years when he might have need for it. Masturbation functions exactly in the same fashion. Few of us have that much sexual creative energy to begin with, that we can squander or destroy parts of it without suffering later consequences.
It is true, however, that once one understands the proper use of the Sexual Creative Center, as herein described, it is of little value to be burdened with guilt for that which was done in the past. On this subject the Nazarene stated clearly, "Let the dead bury the dead." That which we have done is gone. We must look only to the future, and be sure that we do not continue to commit similar acts that would further diminish the power of our Sexual Creative Center.
Over the centuries many solutions have been advanced to help the masturbator overcome his habit. Most of them involve some form of sublimation of the desire. Sports and similar activities have been recommended, under the assumption that by exhausting the body the hormonal pressures can be stilled. While this may help in some instances, I am not certain that it is an answer for all. If we examine the nature of the Sexual Creative Center we might find a better way. Since the substances in this center are related to creativity, we might better be able to assist our young men and women in their desires to calm the insistent call from this center by encouraging them to engage in creative endeavors that, by their nature, utilize the creative potential of the Sexual Creative Center. This utilization for nonsexual creative purposes does help relieve the sexual pressure in many individuals.
But, as mentioned in earlier chapters, the difference in the sexual development of humans and the generally acceptable age for marriage is the major cause of most difficulties with masturbation. When we, as a society, are more inclined to accept the natural ebb and flow of human sexuality, instead of our own concept of what we would like it to be, we will find that masturbation will no longer be practiced as much as it is today. Saint Paul, who was certainly not an advocate of marriage of any kind, still assured his flock that it was "better to marry than to burn." By the phrase "to burn" he meant to have uncontrolled passions of the Sexual Creative Center. This is the nature of most of our young men and so the advice of Saint Paul is as good today as it was in centuries past.
Oral Sex
When considered scientifically, oral sex, both on the male (fellatio) or upon the woman (cunnilingus) are nothing more nor less than sophisticated forms of mutual masturbation. When these techniques are carried out to orgasm, the results upon the body are similar to those of ordinary masturbation. The obvious deprivation to the system occurs again because of the loss of the hormonal exchange which must take place in the vaginal tract for the benefits ordained and sanctioned by Mother Nature and our Creator.
Few investigators doubt that fellatio and cunnilingus were originally developed as an attempt to prevent pregnancy. While contraception is at times, in itself, a desirable objective, it must be accomplished by methods that allow the fluid and vibratory exchange essential to the integrity of the married couple. There are those today who still use oral sex as a method of contraception, but, I dare say, most modern practitioners of this ancient perversion do so because the illicitness of it produces a certain "forbidden fruit" excitement.
Oral sex, as mentioned, was felt to be originally conceived as an attempt to evade the responsibility of bearing children. This, in fact, is the underlying instigator of nearly all sexual perversions. Early man knew only too well, as has been stated by many early philosophers, that the woman and her genitalia were designed to give man the greatest possible physical pleasure that he can know on this Earth, as were his form, figure, and genitalia designed to give her the greatest possible physical pleasure that she can experience upon this Earth. Deviations from this natural use and order were not originally created for greater pleasure, but, rather, as an attempt to avoid the responsibility of children and their subsequent upbringing. Therefore, we have in oral sex, as in practically all sexual activity where ejaculation does not take place in the unencumbered vagina, an attempt to evade the third of our basic principles as well as the first. We can see, therefore, that oral sex has very little to recommend it in any form of truly creative sexual enterprise. Used regularly to ejaculation, it deletes the Sexual Creative Center exactly as does any other form of masturbation.
Anal Sex
The following was originally written twenty years ago, long before the first occurrence of AIDS. It is interesting to note the prophetic words concerning infection from anal intercourse. While the use of the condom may or may not help control the spread of infection from this perversion, it only compounds the deviations from the One Flesh principles.
Most of the previous discussion on oral sex also applies to anal sex. Anal sex, however, has certain characteristics of its own that make it especially undesirable, not the least of which is the chance of infection from the anal penetration. The walls of the anal area are much different from those of the vagina. Since they were not designed by our Creator to receive the penis (or any substitute for it), the anal mucosa is much thinner than the walls of the vagina and much more susceptible to abrasion.* The feces are mostly composed of various types of bacteria, and not all of these are saprophytes, or noninjurious to man.* Some are pathological and it is very easy for these pathogens to be picked up by the penetrating male organ. In this way, a variety of diseases can be transmitted that would otherwise remain confined.**
*It is, of course, this very characteristic that allows the AIDS virus to be readily passed from one blood stream to the other. While the AIDS virus, as far as we know, is not present in the feces, it can pass through small abrasions (cuts) in the thin anal walls and in the head of the penis during anal sexual activity.
**One can only imagine the significance of the few words. Had this advice been heeded, thousands would not have had to die from AIDS. This epidemic is still unchecked and there is much evidence to indicate that the practice of anal sex is still rampant. When will man learn that he cannot flaunt the Law and remain unscathed?
The anal orifice (opening to the rectum) is not designed for this type of sexual activity, and as a consequence of prolonged anal sex, it becomes distended, often inflamed, and develops certain bowel pathologies due to the abnormal stimulation. In general, anal sex, to any normal person, is one of the most repugnant acts in the entire catalog of perversity. Those who practice it have brought to mankind one of the most hideous diseases ever known. Rarely have we been given such an opportunity to readily relate a deviant sexual procedure with the destructive result of that procedure as we have in the case of anal sex and AIDS. It is "a consummation devoutly to be wished" that all mankind will take to heart this example and learn to apply its example to all forms of activities that first sap and, then, finally destroy the Sexual Creative Center.
Intermammary, Interfemoral and Other Forms of Nonvaginal Intercourse
In these forms of sexual activity, the man attempts to use two closely opposing areas of female skin where he can obtain sufficient friction on his penis to create the necessary stimulation for ejaculation. Of these rather unsatisfactory techniques, the most common is probably femoral intercourse in which the penis is stimulated by movement between the two closed thighs of the woman. The activity is therefore close to the vagina, but with no actual direct contact with this seat of female sensation. The sperm is discharged free between the legs of the woman involved and the act carries with it all the nonconstructive properties of ordinary masturbation.
Intermammary sex is performed with a woman with rather large breasts. The male organ is compressed between the two breasts and brought to ejaculation by resultant movements on the part of the male.
These methods are usually used for contraception by those who are not familiar with more constructive or sophisticated procedures. Here, too, the desire for "forbidden fruit" may lead some to these rather immature practices.
Contraception Without Exchange:
The Resurgence of the CondomUntil recent years the condom was considered the only contraceptive of choice for "one night stands" and for the unsophisticated. AIDS, of course, has changed all this. The term "safe sex" is now taken by most to mean sex with a condom. There are calls from the highest government officials to have everyone practice "safe sex" (condom sex) and many efforts have been made not only to teach such practices in our schools but even to distribute free condoms in many of them.
Since, as described in earlier chapters, the habitual use of the condom will cause the wasting away of man's greatest gift from God-his Sexual Creative Center-this method of contraception has the ability to destroy all that is good, constructive and creative in both men and women. The condom cheats both husband and wife because neither is able to receive that which God intended for their physical, emotional and spiritual development.
The condom is one of mankind's greatest enemies. It is truly a devouring wolf in sheep's clothing. It is said to save the body; in truth, it destroys the Soul. While it is supposed to quell the spread of AIDS, it only encourages mankind to ignore the only real cure for this condition-sexual purity.
Prior to the scare from AIDS, the most common method of contraception in the United States was the oral contraceptive pill. While, as mentioned previously, many health problems concern us about this method of contraception, at least it did allow for the God ordained exchange of the creative sexual fluids. Now with the advent of AIDS, the pill is no longer considered safe sex and the condom alone is recommended by many. While the pill has the potential to kill the body, the condom has the potential to kill both the body and the soul. I'm certain that for Biblical scholars this thought will bring to mind what the man of Galilee had to say on this subject, "And fear not them (it) which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him (it) which is able to destroy both body and soul in hell."
I predict that as we now find the predictions written here some twenty years ago coming true twenty years from now we will find a world in which the destructive effects of general condom use are everywhere present even though very few will be willing to place the blame for this where it truly lies
Two commonly used methods of contraception, particularly among the less educated, are the condom, or rubber prophylactic, and the technique known as "withdrawal" or coitus interruptus. When the rubber condom or prophylactic is used over the male organ, even though intercourse and ejaculation take place in the female vagina, there is no exchange of hormones, physical nutrients or even vibratory energy because even this more ethereal part of the act requires flesh-to-flesh contact. The end result of sex with a condom is basically the same as that of mutual masturbation. The sex act becomes a fraud, exactly in the same manner as if we would put a long rubber balloon down an individual's throat, fill it with food, pull it out and tell him he was fed.
A husband and wife who utilize such a method of contraception for any length of time in their marriage usually grow to hate one another. That thin sheet of latex will always keep them from becoming One Flesh. This I know to be a fact from over forty years of marriage counseling.
In the act of withdrawal, or coitus interruptus, intercourse is carried out normally through movements in the vagina until the male feels his time for ejaculation is imminent. At this time he withdraws from the vagina and either ejaculates upon the belly and breasts of his mate or, as is more commonly done, he grabs a handkerchief and fills this innocent piece of cloth with his precious offering. The ultimate results are essentially identical to other forms of mutual masturbation. The only difference is that perhaps the damage to the woman is greater, for in this case she has experienced some of the preliminary sensations and enjoyment of true constructive sex, only to be denied any sustenance or real value at the last minute by the act of withdrawal. In ordinary masturbation, you don't expect much and the woman obtains even less, but here she is shown the sight of a grand feast, and then it is withdrawn from her at the last moment.
One might well ask at this point, "Why would a woman put up with such activities? Why would she allow such practices as oral sex, anal sex, intermammary sex, withdrawal, the use of condoms and all other procedures which prevent her from obtaining and absorbing the substances that are so vital to her physical and spiritual health and well being?" She usually does it for one of three reasons:
First: A woman who truly loves a man wants to please him in every possible way. To show this love, she will often put up with sexual activity which she may or may not find pleasurable (she may even find it disgusting) if she feels he desires it. While this is a somewhat altruistic action on her part, it is really a dumb move. No real man would ever ask a woman to do anything that was not for her own best interests, and those who are not real men, but only beasts in men's attire, are of little lasting value to her.
Admittedly, in today's environment, men may attempt to request those things they have seen in videos or movies or read in books, but at heart they may be good men. In this instance it is up to the woman to inform them about the true nature of her and his Sexual Creative Center. If she holds her ground, a good man will come around to her way of thinking. The others she should let go their own ways. Only an understanding of the nature of the Sexual Creative Center functioning will allow her to properly direct her paramour toward methods constructive to both. This is vital to her present and future health and vitality. Any method of sexual union that does not allow for an exchange of vital fluids, without adulteration, in her vagina, robs her of her birthright and will make her old and haggard before her time.
Second: These techniques were originally designed to prevent pregnancy and, in this, she has more at stake than the male. It is therefore possible that women themselves may initiate these sexual activities to avoid the fears and responsibilities of childbearing. By so doing, they only injure themselves and, in the long run, will discover that all such efforts to circumvent the Divine Law are to their own detriment. Yet they continually commit them day in and day out, almost without abatement. As mentioned earlier, contraception is not inimical to the One Flesh marriage. On the contrary, it is an important integral part of most such unions. All that is asked is that the method chosen allow for the desired vaginal exchange. We have described several good contraceptive methods that meet this requirement.
Third: Women will participate in such acts due to ignorance of the nature of their own Sexual Creative Center or from misinformation derived from current media propaganda and erroneous sex teachings. For such misled women, I recommend a simple test to allow them to judge for themselves who speaks the truth-myself or the modern sexual libertarians. For a few weeks give up your present practices and follow the instructions given in this booklet. At the end of this time analyze yourself and see if you aren't calmer, less anxious and with a new feeling of well-being. If you still doubt the value of what we teach here, return to your old ways and see what happens. I am sure that you will find undesirable changes in your system apparent in short order.
Most of the books on sexual attitudes and mores have been written by men or by women who have been seduced by the prevailing sex-for-sex-sake doctrine. These individuals seldom have any true feedback for their Sexual Creative Center. They may well have stilled its voice long ago and now hear only that of their lower self, a voice that continually cries for more and more pleasurable sensations no matter what the cost. The average good woman can still be in touch with her Sexual Creative Center if she really tries. Once she gains an understanding of this center, she puts on new "wings" and flies above all that holds the rest of humanity in the grip of its vise. She is free and will remain so as long as she utilizes her Sexual Creative Center as God intended.
Those Practices that Violate the Second and Third Principles
Fornication
Fornication is the ancient term applied to two single people who have sexual relations out of wedlock. By Biblical law, two people who were so discovered were required to accept the legitimate "burden" of wedlock. As far as the One Flesh union is concerned, the exact same laws and rules apply to the unmarried as to the married. Marriage, in and of itself, is no justification for any activity that is not sanctioned by the physical sexual process itself. In other words, if an unmarried couple were to follow all the proper tenets, including full responsibility and dictates of a One Flesh sex life, their rewards would be just as great as the married couple that did so.* On the other hand, if a legally married couple abuse their creative energies, the injuries which they incur are identical to those which an unmarried couple create under the same circumstances.
*This is true, but not quite practical. One of the responsibilities of the man is to provide for his family under all circumstances. This is best fulfilled by the marriage contract. While, under very special circumstances, there may be other options, they are rare and so the words of the comedian Sam Levenson still hold true today. He told his daughter that when some boy says to you, "Let's get married or something," you reply, "Let's get married or nothing."
Marriage, under man's law, is a method to insure that a man will carry out his responsibilities and that children of the couple will have specific legal rights under the law, should anything happen to the parents.
The marriage of two individuals, under God's Law, is something that takes place in their hearts. This may be solemnized by a man-made ceremony and such symbolism is certainly not to be condemned, but it is better to have a marriage in the heart and soul of two young loving individuals without man's solemnizing than a marriage performed in the greatest church on earth between two people who have no real love for one another. The first can be sanctified by God and the angels; the second is a true travesty on the state of marriage.
True love and responsibility are possible in unmarried lovers, but they are not the rule. In most acts of fornication, love plays only a minor part and a true sense of adult responsibility is even rarer. At the time of the sexual act, the two may feel that they love one another, yet if they spoke honestly, they would seldom admit to being ready and willing to accept the full responsibility of their actions. In a man, there is only one sure guide to his love and that is his willingness to accept gladly the full responsibilities of all his actions. Under the laws of the One Flesh union, sexual activity in the unmarried would be considered constructive only if both participants were willing to assume all the same responsibilities as if they were legally married. In this day and age of the so-called "new morality," such situations may occur.
In the elderly, this situation often happens with those who are living on Social Security. Under the law, if two people who are now receiving Social Security separately were to marry, they would have to accept a reduction in their Social Security payments. In this manner, our government is fostering golden age fornication. Until such idiotic and unjust laws are altered, who will judge these people who have lived a good life and are now seeking some comfortable degree of good companionship in their twilight years? If it must be under the present circumstances, I say, more power to them! However, it would be best if the government would rewrite the laws, so that an older man can give his name to the woman he loves without pauperizing her at the same time.
Today, we also find the same sort of inequities in some of the Internal Revenue Service rules for the younger citizen. Frequently, a man and a woman will pay less income tax if they live together but do not marry. Here again the government is subsidizing fornication. It is interesting to note that this inequality has been discussed by both political parties in our nation for several years now and yet, irrespective of which party is in office, nothing, to date, has been done about it. One cannot help but wonder if there is some powerful fornication lobby at work somewhere!
Promiscuity and Adultery
Promiscuity and adultery, as such, will be discussed together because their effect on the creative sex life and the Sexual Creative Center is nearly identical. In these two forms of sexual expression, all three of our basic tenets interact. It is for this reason, undoubtedly, that such activities were so highly condemned by the religious prophets of the past and one of the original ten commandments stated clearly, "Thou shalt not commit adultery."
When we refer to adultery, we usually refer to a married person who is being promiscuous, so actually adultery is simply a specific type of promiscuity. The fact that the individual who is promiscuous is married presents certain definite legal differences between the two practices, but as far as the One Flesh union is concerned, the results of the two are identical.
The basic physical problem, regarding the One Flesh principles, in adultery and promiscuity is the combining of the sexual fluids, and their attendant vibrations, by two or more individuals within a relatively short period of time in the vagina of the same woman. These fluids are specific, very much like blood types, and as two incompatible bloods may have a strong antipathy toward one another, to the point of destroying each other, so can the various seminal fluids or female lochia.
An individual seminal fluid will demand a territorial right in a woman; it will pervade and infuse her whole system. This is its place, its purpose and its power. If she is so unwise as to allow a second or third (or more) fluid to enter her body while the vitality of the first is strong, a battle for these territorial rights must ensue. The conflicting vibrations produced deeply affect her nervous and glandular systems and all the finer qualities of her true womanhood are subtly eroded by the corrosive action produced. The effects on her Sexual Creative Center are enormous. The effects are similar to the tossing of a handful of sand into the gears of a running machine.
While his nature is much cruder (and therefore less sensitive) than hers, the man does not escape the results of such intrigue entirely. The absorption of the diverse lochia and the conflicting vibratory rates of different women will all exact their toll on him in due time.
In some ways he is likely to be affected even more than a woman. While the effects on a woman are mainly physical, those on the man are more of a vibratory nature. Since women are more sensitive than men, they are able to generate far stronger vibratory energy than men. If a woman decides that a man "did her wrong" she can send out energy that even the devils fear. The movie, Fatal Attraction, is based on this principle and as powerful as this depiction is, it pales when compared with what a woman scorned is capable of doing to a man whom she feels "loved and left her."
The qualities that are degraded in the man by such practices are those of his true manhood-honor, responsibility, justice, and those elements of chivalry that place him above the common herd.
Admittedly, some men are so bestial that promiscuity seems to have little effect upon them. What it does, however, is to prevent any hope of improvement in their wretched state. Even these semi-brutes are not immune to the vibrations sent out to them by women they have used and then abandoned. But, perhaps this is their lot. Even if they seem to avoid their proper due in this life, who can say that those women they betrayed will not seek drastic revenge throughout all eternity?
On a more practical note, it takes approximately six months for the effects of one individual's vibrations to weaken to a point that sex with another would not create the aforementioned conflicts. This is the general waiting period for most divorces and so, once again, we see that the empirical experience of men has fallen within the functioning of the natural law. It is important, however, for the parties to be celibate during this entire six months. Any sex relations during this time will begin the waiting process all over again.
In his early writings, over one-hundred and fifty years ago, Dr. P.B. Randolph spoke of promiscuity as producing an unquenchable fire within the persons participating with the act. He also said that if a man committed adultery with a woman and then came home and had sex with his own wife, he would transfer this fire to her. The disharmony which was at that time within him would be transmitted by his vibrations, which should be of love but were not, into her own being. As a practicing physician, I must say that my own experience fully justifies every word that Dr. Randolph ever wrote on this subject.
As a counselor to men and women from all over the world, I see many in my office, every week, suffering from the consequences of this display of sexual unawareness. Unfortunately this fire of variety has so inflamed their desires that very few are willing to mend their ways and live the One Flesh sex life. Like so many others for different reasons, they want me to cure their present problems so they can go out and do all over again the same things that brought their difficulties on them in the first place. I attempt to teach them that life just doesn't work that way. We both sow and reap and to stop reaping the whirlwind, we must stop sowing the wind.
While the immediate injury due to sexual promiscuity is basically physical, its long-range consequences are such that it causes an erosion of the Sexual Creative Center due to the lack of implementation of One Flesh principles 2 and 3. The Bible says no man can serve two masters. Few men can truly love two, three or more women. The same applies with even greater validity to a woman. In adulterous behavior, what may have been, at one time, love, rapidly deteriorates to lust and desire. The search for true sexual fulfillment and creativeness (the One Flesh union) degenerates to the demand only for the ultimate orgasm. While a fully rewarding orgasm is not to be denied under the laws of the One Flesh union, it is a reward for a job well done, not an end in itself. A loveless, irresponsible orgasm is like a food consisting only of refined starch but devoid of all the life-giving vitamins and minerals. It fills the stomach, but starves the real being. As promiscuous activity continues, love, particularly in the woman, becomes only an unrealized goal which recedes ever further from her with each new encounter. While a man may attempt to deny that real love even exists, his chance of ever finding this elusive phantom lessens with each successive conquest.
The third principle of sexual responsibility flies out the window as rapidly as promiscuity enters. The whole procedure of modern promiscuity is based on the acceptance of no responsibility and, as such, is destructive to all the finer and nobler qualities of both men and women; it is only the acceptance of responsibility for their own actions that makes men or women truly human beings. Without this integrity in sexual activities they are little more than rutting animals.
Homosexuality
Homosexuality is obviously a very ancient sexual expression. In both the Old and New Testaments, it is mentioned and condemned soundly whenever such attention is directed. Homosexuality can fulfill none of the creative or constructive purposes of sex, except that of close human companionship. Obviously, there is in the male homosexual or the female lesbian no form of vaginal exchange. Sex between those of like gender, therefore, is completely devoid of the physical constructive potentials ordained by the Creator.
Also, there can, obviously, be no reproduction between two members of the homosexual community, but this is probably an attribute rather than a detriment. Theoretically, homosexuals should not be able to reproduce themselves, though in those who are bisexual and do bring children into this world, the effects of heredity on the production of homosexuality are not yet well documented.
It is not impossible for homosexuals to feel some sort of loving attachment toward one another. Since there is little constructive value in their sex lives, I see no reason why we should deny them this possibility. It is only to be hoped that with time, the world at large will fully accept the teachings and practices of the One Flesh concept and then homosexuality and all other aberrations will become a thing of the past.*
*This section on homosexuality was written over ten years before the AIDS drama. The functioning of the natural world is such that it removes all entities that do not contribute to the constructive order of things. It is interesting to note that AIDS does not target homosexuals as such but only those who live a perverted life. There are many reasons a person may be born or become a homosexual. He (or she) is not sanctioned for this but only for those sexual practices that are destructive to the Sexual Creative Center. We are taught to love all mankind because, until all become free from the shackles of the flesh, all are bound together to some degree. Therefore, this book is meant for the homosexual as well as for the heterosexual. In many ways the homosexual has more to benefit from the teachings herein than the heterosexual since he is far more prone to engage in soul destructive acts than his "straight" contemporary.
I firmly believe that we are in a time when those who practice acts detrimental to the Sexual Creative Center will be held to task, by the Divine Law, for their actions here and now. AIDS is probably only the first of the agents of this cleansing. No one is exempt but neither will anyone who will abandon his perverse sexual practices and follow the One Flesh concepts be ignored or forgotten.
Mankind is rapidly approaching the far left swing of the sexual pendulum. Soon it will be stopping for a short time and then begin its inevitable swing back to the right and sexual puritanism. Once the swing back begins there will be much "wailing and gnashing of teeth" but it will be too late. The time to learn to use your Sexual Creative Center as God intended is now. Later will be too late.
Prostitution
The art of prostitution is probably as old as the deviation of homosexuality. The fact that the average man, unlike a normal woman, can experience the lustful pleasures of sex without any need for a loving involvement is well shown by the persistence of prostitution. For the prostitute, her body becomes a dumping ground for the mixed semen of multitudes of low humanity. Without love and almost without feeling, she puts God's priceless gift of her Sexual Creative Center on the open market to be toyed with by every male creature (we dare not call them men) who has a few dollars in his pocket. What can be said of her? Her life is a mockery of all the principles of creative sex and the One Flesh union.*
*In regard to those who consider visiting a prostitute the following words of Saint Paul in I Corinthians 6:16 may be of some interest: "What? Know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh." Paul, in talking about the results of harlotry, makes it abundantly clear that by having sexual relations with a harlot the man would (to some degree) make her a part of himself, that they two would become one flesh. The man who engages in harlotry does takes unto himself a part of the harlot and this cannot ever be completely eradicated. Scientifically, he has taken a portion of her DNA into his being and it will lie there forever to plague him to the extent of its basic nature. This, of course, is true of all casual or promiscuous sex. With such diverse and contentious DNA molecules coursing through the blood stream of so many of our leaders in many fields is it any wonder that their leadership is so unstable and unwise?
Her body is a cauldron in which innumerable fires burn which will eventually either drive her to suicide, or will destroy all her finer womanly characteristics and she will become either a cynical old nag or a dissatisfied, unsatisfiable bitch.
Among such Magdalenes, Jesus attempted to teach the same Laws we teach here. He knew that they no longer had any illusions of life. He knew that Regeneration was possible, but he also knew the Law, "many are called, but few are chosen." He was able to help many of these children of God to understand the true nature of their Sexual Creative Center. Once they really understood the truth, there was no going back.
That which others have done can still be done. The Laws of God remain the same. Any woman who still has life coursing through her veins can learn the practice of sexual Regeneration. If she will then put this knowledge into practice, her past sins can become as "white as the snow.
Incest
Incest confronts us with a new situation that does not fall neatly within our three principles, but is closely related to the first principle. Incest, except in the case of the most dire necessity, as in the instance of Lot and his two daughters, is against all principles of creative sex and the One Flesh union because it tends to produce weak and mentally deficient offspring. This is accepted by all men of true scientific training and there is, to my present knowledge, no sane person who today teaches the value of incest.
The most common form of this atrocity is that of a father with his daughter. Such abused girls require all our help and sympathy. The father is no man but a brute of the worst possible caliber. It is interesting to note that even the most brutish criminal in prison looks down on such a father if he is caught and placed in confinement with them.
"Why," you ask, "if there is a just God, does He allow such things to happen?" The best answer is to be found in the concept of karma. We cannot know what the daughter may have done in her past life to deserve such a fate, but you can be certain that the Law is just and that full compensation is its eternal realized goal under all circumstances.
Group Sex
Group sex, as now taught and recommended in many of our sophisticated sex manuals, is nothing more than a variation of the ancient orgy. However, many of the modern texts become very sanctimonious about the whole thing and discuss such matters as the various relationship commitments, the shared openness, sensitivity training or the quasi-family involvement, when it actually amounts to the same basic factor-the desire for promiscuous lustfulness and sexual variety. Strangely, in this so-called age of escape from "hang-ups" we have probably the greatest hang-up of all, and that is the fear of admitting our own degeneracy. Frankly, if I ever decided to visit a center for group sex, I think I would find the Roman and Greek orgies of old much more interesting than these modern pseudointellectual sessions of group sex. I'm afraid they've lost all the fun. If you are going to be decadent, you might as well enjoy it for the moment, because your transgression of the Laws of creative sex and your Sexual Creative Center will catch up with you soon enough. If we're going to hell, let's do it in style and bring back the old Saturnalias and Bacchanalias. Let's have naked women dance in the streets. Let's sacrifice a virgin or two. Do you not find all this supersanctimonious sinning a bore? (Just kidding.)
Man is really a fascinating being. Few of us are willing to live according to the Laws laid down by God and Nature for our most ideal and constructive functioning, but we have within us enough guilt that we are constantly trying to justify our perverted and injurious habits. The alcoholic takes a drink because it relaxes him, not because he likes the stuff. The smoker smokes because it calms his nerves, not because he really enjoys the addiction of nicotine, and those who would enjoy the pleasures of sex without assuming any of its responsibilities delude themselves with all forms of sophistries and excuses for the most despicable and degenerating of activities.
Give me a good, honest, debauched libertine any day to these modern-day apologists for all forms of sexual licentiousness who attempt to feed us the fallacy that sin is only in our guilt-ridden consciousness and not real. An honest man, no matter how vile or degenerate, can be dealt with and even helped. But a pious hypocrite is usually beyond the help of either man or God.
For what it's worth, group sex, as now proscribed, partakes of all the adverse consequences of normal promiscuity plus the fact that in such encounters, some form of homosexual activity or at least bisexual activity usually takes place to further erode all creative sexual characteristics and debase the Sexual Creative Centers of all concerned.
Pregnancy
Some of the earlier authorities on sexual techniques and habits considered it detrimental to the pregnant woman to put upon her the strain of being her husband's mistress while she was carrying his child. Modern thought on this subject holds that, except for the possibility of the last few weeks before term, usually there is no harm engendered by intercourse during pregnancy if One Flesh principles are followed.
For once I agree with the consensus of modern thought. There is nothing in regard to sex during pregnancy that would in be counter to the principles of creative sex. In fact, just the opposite is true. Normal marital sexual activities carried out during pregnancy, with the desires and needs of the mother always paramount, should help greatly in the production of a superior child.* During the later months of pregnancy, care, of course, must be exercised so that no great amount of pressure is placed upon the woman's abdomen, but there are a number of useful sex positions that fulfill this requirement.
*See Chapters Ten and Eleven
Menstrual Sex
Increasing numbers of modern sex gurus are recommending that there is no reason to abstain from sex during the woman's menstrual period. Since some women seem to desire sex more at this time than at others, they feel that her desires are legitimate and should be met. On this point, I must remain a traditionalist. The female tract, at the time of menstruation, is discharging and eliminating, not absorbing. The menstrual blood causes an alkaline reaction of the tract, in counter-distinction to its normal acidic pH. The seminal fluid and vibratory exchange at this time would not take place properly, and therefore would not be conducive to creative and regenerative sex.
Dr. R. Swinburne Clymer, in some of his works on this subject, has stated that while menstrual intercourse is preferred to mutual masturbation, this activity is not within the natural law and among the wise men of old was labeled by them as the "sin of Cain."
For a couple who pursues the constructive One Flesh sex life, the time of menstruation is a useful time of abstinence to allow a realignment and rekindling of desire which is stimulated whenever an objective must await fulfillment. If you find this premise difficult to accept, try fasting for two or three days and at the end of that time, see how good even the plainest of food tastes. Few things in life are as uninspiring as a surfeited sense, no matter which one it may be.
Vasectomies and Tubal Ligations
By the action of these operations, certain changes are produced, particularly in the semen of the male, which tends to alter dramatically its effect upon the female. What was once nourishing, now becomes injurious. What was once strengthening, now becomes weakening. Where his vibrations of love and affection once produced in her harmony and contentment, she now has within her a strange discontentment which neither she nor he can understand.
It must be admitted that, in some couples, the sexual activity prior to the vasectomy was on such a low unenlightened level that the vasectomy produces little demonstrable change. This does not mean that the operation was harmless, but only that their senses have already been so dulled by their previous life-style that the harmful effects of the vasectomy or tubal ligation are outwardly indiscernible.
When these operations, as is usual, are performed to prevent further pregnancies, i.e., to remove the possible responsibilities of sex while still enjoying its pleasures, the third principle of the One Flesh union is jeopardized. If such an operation is deemed necessary by competent physicians to save the life of either partner, the physical effects will still be present, but the adverse effects of breaking the third principle of the One Flesh union will not exist.
Both of these operations have long lasting effects on both the husband and the wife if they are utilized for contraceptive purposes. Both directly alter the functioning nature of the Sexual Creative Center. In using these procedures to prevent pregnancy, man is attempting to play God. As with all such efforts, he usually finds that he has opened a Pandora's box that he cannot close again.
Our body is a wondrously complicated machine, and it is a wise man who consciously alters as little of its normal functioning as possible, particularly when no one will guarantee the outcome or lack of damage caused by such alteration.
Cervical Cancer
(Just as we were preparing to go to press with One Flesh, the following newspaper article appeared. We felt that this book would not be complete without presenting the findings of this panel and our comments on these findings. While we agree with several of the panel's recommendations, it is obvious that they are not knowledgeable concerning the One Flesh concept and so we will make some suggestions about matters they left out of their report.)
Wiping Out Cervical Cancer Attainable Goal, Panel Says By PAUL RECER of The Associated Press
"BETHESDA, MD.-Almost 5,000 American women die of cervical cancer annually and virtually all the deaths could be prevented by routine Pap smears and by safe sex, a National Institutes of Health panel of experts concluded yesterday.
"'In theory, cervical cancer is a cancer that we can completely prevent,' said Dr. Patricia S. Braly, a gynecological cancer specialist at Louisiana State University and chairman of a panel of experts appointed by the NIH.
"'If we could reach all the women in this country who are not getting regular Pap tests,' she said, 'we could eradicate this type of cancer.'
"About 15,700 new cases of cervical cancer, about 6 percent of all cancers, are diagnosed annually in the United States. Worldwide, 470,000 cervical cancer cases are diagnosed every year. It is second only to breast cancer as the most common malignancy.
"The committee of experts reported that about half of the women diagnosed with cervical cancer in the United States have never had a Pap test, an office procedure in which cells are scraped from the cervix and then analyzed for abnormality. Properly performed, the test can detect abnormal cells before they become cancers and can lead to early treatment that can preserve both life and fertility.
"Among the population groups least often receiving Pap tests are older women, the uninsured, ethnic minorities, especially Hispanics and older blacks, and the poor, particularly those in rural areas.
"The committee also concluded that virtually all cervical cancers are related to infection, at some point in life, by the human papilloma virus, or HPV a sexually transmitted disease.
"'Cervical cancer is unique in that it is the first major solid tumor to have been shown to be virally induced in essentially every case,' the report said.
"There are 70 types of HPV, but only six are associated with cervical cancer. About 30 million Americans, about half women, are infected with HPV.
"About 1 percent of the infected women will actually develop cervical cancer, said Dr. Richard L. Sweet, a committee member and a professor at the University of Pittsburgh, Magee Women's Hospital.
"Spread of HPV can be prevented by the use of condoms, the panel said. It also strongly recommended that young people delay the start of sexual activity as long as possible and limit the number of partners.
"Sweet said adolescent females who start sexual activities before the age of 18 are more likely to develop cervical cancer from an HPV infection than are women who delay the start of sexual intercourse.
"The greater the number of sexual partners, the greater is the chance of contracting HPV, said Braly.
"Smoking, oral contraceptive use and contracting other sexually transmitted diseases are also risk factors for developing cervical cancer, the panel found."
As you read this article in light of the One Flesh principles, can you not see the validity of these principles in our daily lives?
Here we are told by a distinguished panel of objective medical researchers the following:
1. The second most common cancer in the world is caused by promiscuous sex (especially in the young), oral contraceptives, smoking and
having other sexually transmitted diseases (again invariably caused by promiscuous sex).
2. The more promiscuous the woman, and the earlier she begins, the more likely is she to develop cervical cancer.
3. Pap tests can be used to detect cervical cancer in the early stages when the rate of recovery following an operation is good.
4. Since the evidence shows that cervical cancer is usually caused by a few forms of the HPV virus, the use of a condom to prevent this virus (and the essential male contribution to the female) may well help in preventing its spread.
We fully agree with the importance of the Pap test. It is harmless and should be an essential part of examinations given to all women every one to two years. For the poor, the government might do well to set up clinics that offer this service free. The cost would not be that great and would save funds in the long run since the savings made in preventing just one case of cervical cancer would pay for a vast number of tests.
As far as condoms are concerned, here again we feel that this advice, in the view of the One Flesh concept, takes the woman out of the frying pan into the fire. According to the panel, about one percent of the women infected with HPV will develop cervical cancer but 100 percent of those who use condoms will reap the adverse effects to both body and soul from the device. (See section on condoms.)
Does that mean that we recommend that women play Russian roulette with their bodies and take the chance of getting the virus that causes cervical cancer by unprotected sex? No. What we do recommend is that the smart woman takes this report to heart and, for her own benefit, conducts herself wisely. Ideally, the virginal One Flesh marriage will put a stop to all such cancers. If this advice sounds naive, remember the "curse causeless shall not come." We are told in this article, as clearly as can be told, that cervical cancer (like all other sexually related diseases) is caused by an attempt to set aside God's Law for the One Flesh union of male and female. Without promiscuity, there would be no cervical cancer. While smoking and the contraceptive pill are contributing factors, it is doubtful that they, alone, are sufficiently powerful to cause this malignancy.
What is a woman to do who has been promiscuous, even in the distant past, but who now desires to live the One Flesh life and wants to be certain that she will not develop cervical cancer in the future? Nothing is certain in this life, but we have helped many women to achieve this goal by suggesting to them the following routine:
1. Come to one of our Healing Research Centers for an examination and Pap test.
2. If any cervical pathology is discovered, we will treat it with natural methods so as to bring the cervix back to a healthy, normal state.
3. Do not engage in any form of sexual intercourse until the cervix has returned to normal.
4. If you are interested in a man, ask him to be tested for HPV, HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. If he will not cooperate, find another prospective husband since this one would only bring you pain and heartache.
5. Once you have found a true One Flesh partner who meets your criteria, be faithful to him as you insist that he be faithful to you.
Is this routine asking a lot of today's men and women? Yes, but anything less is only asking for more trouble; as the Bible says, "the last state of that man (woman) is worse than the first."
Infertility
While we cannot call infertility an abuse of the One Flesh concepts, it is possible that some of the measures to overcome this problem may lead into situations that are not desirable for the race of man. This has been the view of the One Flesh community for some time, but only recently have some prominent scientists in the infertility field begun to have similar misgivings.
Doctors are concerned that recent advances in in vitro (literally "in glass," that is, in the laboratory; not in the human body) fertilization may well perpetuate various hereditary factors that Nature is attempting to eliminate by not allowing the sperm to be able to impregnate the egg. The more one thinks about this, the more one realizes the seriousness of their concern.
Nature (God's right arm) always does her best to keep the weak and the imperfect from creating new life. In this way, and only in this way in the animal world, is she able to work for the perfection of the species. When man attempts to help Nature by the use of controlled animal husbandry, he does the same as she. That is, he uses the best animals he has to mate so that he is assured of the most perfect offspring.
Today our scientists are attempting to take those spermatozoa that Nature rejects and force them to reproduce. What will be the results of this intervention? Can it be good? What would we think of an animal breeder who took the least healthy of his animals and forced them to breed? Would we not think he had lost his mind? What attorney would want to defend him in a competency hearing? Yet this is what some of our scientists want to do with humans. Is it any wonder that there is a backlash of concerned doctors regarding these types of infertility procedures?
We are not without sympathy for those who cannot bear children the natural way; however, we ask them to consider the possibility that Nature (and God) are right and the lesser of two evils is to accept the situation and to direct their nurturing desires into other avenues.
This is what Mr. Milton Hershey (of chocolate fame) and his wife did when they discovered they could not bring children into this world. They created a home for orphan boys (and now girls, too) that is world famous to this day.
Summation
The catalog of possible sexual abuses is long. Many of the most bizarre types of perversions and fetishes have been omitted here since, by this time, most readers can easily evaluate them themselves from the three One Flesh principles taught. Nonconstructive sexual practices are usually due to ignorance or lust. Ignorance we can dispel by this text; lust you must overcome yourself through love and honor.
Remember, nothing is denied man that is to his real or ultimate benefit. God has denied man no beneficial pleasure. There is in the long run no pleasure in abusive or licentious sex that is any greater than that which can be achieved in the One Flesh union if the proper attitudes and techniques are pursued.